Fidelity vs Infidelity

Falling in love is so easy, but to keep love alive and going seems to be tough. Wondering what is wrong with nowsadays with human today? Im not targeting on a certain gender.. "ahem.. which i think i am bias.." But it seems like to maintain a relationship it really requires alot of time, love, trust and effort in it. One of my friend sms this to me that nite ' if love is not looked after, gradually it will fade away.' I agree, there are certain truths of what she says.

I was not surprised when she told me about her marriage is on the rocks. I mean at this era, infidelity has never been an issue among most people. I was just sadden to hear that a 20 year old marriage cant be compare to someone whom he barely knew for few months. Will love outlast lust???

I felt her pain as she was relating her stories... all along her world belong to her husband and kids and husband only... she love him and love has become a possession. As a result, he needs a breather and conveniently excused himself for that affair.

Where art all thee fidelity man? I feel so sad as she begin to pour her stories to me... What is wrong with man nowsaday?? Simply can just find a reason for this act? If i am her, i really dont know what will i react? People around her ask her to endure and be openhearted, her portugal husband will be home after the 'affair' but i think its really ridiculous.. i cant condo this kind of thinking!!!!!

Maybe not for me... i may not be a perfectionist in most things.. rooms can be messy, work not done, dishes on the sink and out to play.. but when it comes to relations i am dead serious.. Can you imagine, when u gave your heart to someone without any reservations thinking that it will be a fairy tale ending but when the sunsets down.. curtains are drawn ... welcome to real world baby.

I guess i do see a similarity in her when i was with Ben. At that time, to me he is my world, all i wanted is to be with him and him alone... he was my first love, know him in church and we left together... most woman tend to let their heart rule over her emotions. The things that we dont really like to do, but for love's sake we do it, just to please the one we love.


Time progress and our love cant stand the test of time, he finally admitted that he was unfaithful to our relationship. From then, i make up my mind... i decided to leave him despite of how much he meant to me. The rest is history....

I think i am still thankful for God for all these hicups of relations. It really allows me to see clearer what am i looking for in a man. It was never easy to maintain one. It really needs two to clap together to make it work. I really hope that every woman will find a right home with that man she loves.. who doesnt want a happy ending anyway? :)

Till then... let my fairy tale begin..